There is a reality beyond thought where thought appears and where the I who thinks is also known as a thought. None of that needs to go away, it is the beauty of existence. How nice it is to see we are not what we think we are, what we are is unknowable.

Why do we deny it? Because it makes experiencing quite different, it allows us to feel very independent. What we are wants to forget its vastness in order to experience unimaginable thrills which are only possible from limitation. Vastness cannot experience fear, vastness cannot experience despair.

Transmutation is letting the pain change us, facing it raises our ability to accept it. By accepting it fully, we drop the fear which veils the love hidden in the pain.

This all points to the importance of changing oneself first, before trying to change the world. This change is the total and absolute acceptance of reality, the love of all that is. Otherwise you will go at the world with rejection and denial of yourself and the world, with anger, and lacking love, but believing the opposite.